Having sex when you're fat

HAVING SEX WHEN YOU'RE FAT

When you grow up thinking you are not desirable,you basically throw away the idea of finding love. The idea of having sex is even far-fetched and when you do fall in love and you want to take your relationship to next level, the insecurities you have with your body makes you doubt your choices.

So many, literally so many thoughts run right,left and centre
What should I wear? Would I even look sexy?

I don't want him to see me naked. I can't see myself naked. How will he?

What if he sees that my thighs jiggle and has stretch marks?What if he notices I wear spanks?What if I don't look good without make-up?

Can I switch off the lights so that he doesn't see me?
Oh, I need a blanket. That way I can cover myself.
Will my weight hurt him if I'm on top? Will I be flexible enough for that position? Will he find me undesirable?
Will he leave me if he gets to see the real me? Will I ever find somebody else to have sex with if not with him.

I should be lucky he wants to touch me.

Have you been thinking this all your life?
RELAX..........

You're not alone

It's not something you can just force yourself into.

Here's what you can and must do.

1. Talk to your partner about your insecurities and tell them how you feel . Any supporting and loving partner would make the process comfortable.

2. Look at yourself naked and touch yourself more frequently.
Your body is deserving of love and pleasure. Every body is .

3. Don't force yourself to have sex. If you think it's not the right time ,then don't.
You can take as much time as you need to feel comfortable. You are not too old to be a virgin . Don't give in to societal pressures and don't let anyone bully you into doing something you don't want to do.

4. Don't give up on love. There is somebody out there who'll love the real you. I can vouch for that.